The Good And The Bad With Online Dating

Online dating is a system that enables people to find and introduce themselves to potential people over the internet. With online dating, the goal is to develop personal, romantic, or sexual relationships with someone. Online dating could have a positive, or negative affect on someone’s life. Some pros of online dating are you get to meet more people, you can meet like-minded people, and you can be open with someone about what you’re looking for. Some cons of online dating are it can be dangerous, profiles don’t tell you much, and most sites focus on physical attrition. With online dating users are more likely to have a positive experience rather than a negative experience.

There are so many pros to online dating. Most online daters say it was somewhat easier to find people they were attracted to or people that they have interests with. There are so many people that you find through online dating, that have some of the same personalities as you, or that you find attractive. Another pro is online dating is easy to set up. All you need is a mobile device or intranet, and then you just fill out your profile and start swiping. Another pro is online dating increases your chances in finding a match. There are so many profiles with online dating sites, so there is a higher chance of you finding a match rather than in person. Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford who has been conducting dating research for a long time, has said that “one of the things I have found out as part of my research is that people who meet online actually progress to marriage faster than people who meet offline. Rosenfeld said” If you look at the couples who stay together, about half of the couples who meet through online dating have transitioned to marriage by year four of the relationship. If you look at people who didn’t meet through online dating, the time frame is much longer — half of those couple’s transition to marriage by year 10 of the relationship. I asked my friend Michael Swisher, what he things about online dating, and if he thinks online dating is a good or bad thing. He said, “I think online dating is a good thing, you can match, and message with so many different people, and online dating is good if you are a shy person.”

Online dating could be a good thing, but there are cons to online dating. The first con about online dating is it can be dangerous. There are people on dating sites that try to catfish you, they are creating a fake identity to lure people into relationships online. Most people try to trick others online, because they want relationships with someone they can never have. Some people who catfish, are mean to people, try to harm them, or they want their money.  Catfishing can be dangerous. There is even a TV show about being catfished, and celebrities share their stories about being catfished. In a recent Young Hollywood Video Noah was tricked by someone he thought was a real person, but to this day he doesn’t know who the person was. I developed this, like, what I thought was like, you know, an intimate relationship with someone, and we were just taking and getting to know each other, and it turned out they were just not who I thought they were,” he says. “I still don’t know to this day who they were.” Another con of online dating is profiles don’t tell you much. People don’t put much on their profiles, and they don’t tell you much about a person. There are non-verbal behavioral cues which you can only know about when you interact with someone directly. There are some qualities like empathy, chemistry, and comparison. Those qualities are almost impossible to tell from a profile.  Another con of online dating is most sites put a lot of emphasis on physical attraction. If you have a gorgeous picture on your profile, or you look physically attractive, you will get more requests, and messages from people that like you, and/or want to meet up with you. Another downside to online dating is men don’t get enough messages. There are three reasons why men don’t get enough notifications. Number 1, men tend to outnumber women, so the odds aren’t stacked in our favor. Number 2, matching algorithms aren’t very effective, and number 3, men are doing it wrong. Most women get a lot of messages from men, but most of the messages they get from them, don’t respond. I asked my friend Joseph West, on what he thinks about this infographic about men not getting enough messages, and he said, “i’m not surprised, I don’t get a lot of messages from girls, and I feel like there are way more men on dating apps that could have a chance.”

Like I said earlier, Online dating enables people to get to talk to so many different people online The pros of online dating are you get to meet more people, you can meet like-minded people, and you can be open with someone about what you’re looking for. Some cons of online dating are it can be dangerous, profiles don’t tell you much, and most sites focus on physical attrition. I think online dating is a good thing for people. Yes there is bad things about online dating, but if you take precautions while online dating, it will be a good experience.

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